That’s not exactly how that saying goes!
Almost every single person I know has a different definition and threshold for pain. You probably have noticed this as well. There are those that reach for the ibuprofen at the first hint of a headache or muscle pain. Then there are those on the opposite end of the spectrum that “tough it out” when they clearly need something to help them cope. (not necessarily pain meds, but coping techniques!)

I’ve found that in labor and birth that women discover something new relating to pain. Some women discover that they can take a lot more than they thought, previously classifying themselves as one of those reaching for the ibuprofen the fastest! Others find that they need a lot more help coping than they thought they would. And that’s okay!

Birth and labor aren’t simply the means to an end=baby. It is a journey, a process of discovering one’s self, discovering one’s limits, boundaries, or the lack thereof. This can be a very empowering event. Or it can be a very intimidating one. Having the information to make educated choices about pain and the management of it are crucial to a successful birthing experience.

The medical model of care acknowledges the basic concept that pain can be coped with via drugs, which are sometimes necessary. A wholistic (whole person) model acknowledges that there are many ways to deal and cope with pain. These include but are not limited to:

  • water therapy
  • distraction
  • counter-pressure
  • acupressure*
  • comforting touch
  • emotional support
  • encouragement
  • proper nutrition/hydration
  • aromatherapy*
  • soothing sounds/music
  • dealing with fear(s) before labor

Pain is a normal response to stimulus. In labor that stimulus is the normal physiological action of the baby leaving the mother’s body. It is normal and to some degree necessary (although the perception of that pain can be lessened or removed altogether).The level of pain that mothers experience varies widely of course. Using the tools available to her, the doula employs as many of these alternative options as possible to help her clients cope.  My personal philosophy is to embrace the normalcy of this experience and equip yourself to cope in beneficial & positive ways.

 

*Some doulas are specialized in alternative healing modes such as acupressure or aroma therapy. Always consult with a professional if you want to try something that your doula isn’t specifically trained in. 

 

Brandi Monson

CD(DONA)

Serving Southeast Kansas and Northeast Oklahoma

Including the cities of: Independence & Coffeyville Kansas and surrounding areas.

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